How your belief system affects your confidence

“If we believe in a lie, it can become truth if you look at the impact it can have on us.”

What you believe about yourself, about the world and others, can have a profound impact on your confidence level. Clearly, your belief system.

Recently I read a story about a man who dug a hole in his garden and came across something that looked like a World War II mine.

In the split second before he realized the danger he would face, he pushed the button above.

Having fear of triggering the bomb, he immediately wrapped a tape over his finger, so around the bomb, to keep the pressure on the button. Obviously, he called for help totally confused, and even took care to leave a message for his family if something happened to him.

The police, fire, and bomb disposal experts arrived home … 3 hours after the call.

Imagine the stress, fear, anguish awaiting rescue.

And you’ve probably guessed the rest of the story. Deminers were not dealing with a wealth of World War II, but a component of an old Citroën hydraulic system! 

Looking back on his ordeal, the man in question had said: “I ​​was absolutely terrified that I could explode into a thousand pieces at any time – I looked at the sky, thinking that my life was at an end.”

Think back to the quote in question:

“If we believe in a lie, it can become truth if you look at the impact it can have on us.”

And the truth is a lie could be hiding in your beliefs. Unfortunately, some of the beliefs that people have about themselves steal their trust.

Beliefs such as:

“Things always look bad for me”

“I’m not attractive enough ‘

“I cannot change”

“I’ll never be as good as …. ”

Perhaps it is time to question the truth about these beliefs, and expose them to light. Take them for what they really are, that is to say, lies.

It’s time to examine your beliefs. Which could have negative effects on you?
Who are the leaders of your beliefs about yourself?

Many factors come into play when it comes to beliefs. Here are the four that are most frequently involved:

– Your Education
– Your school years
– Media
– Yourself

These four factors have the potential to have a positive impact on us – and in the same way, they may have the potential to overwrite or erode our confidence.

We all know the potential impact the way our parents treated us.

The other day I read a story about a brilliant actor.

It was described how his father, who died when he was only 16 years old. He described him as someone intimidating and dry. He lamented, saying that his father was not there to admire his success, but shortly afterwards, he said: “I wonder if I could achieve what I have done so far if my father was still alive. Maybe I would not have the confidence. ”

It’s sad is not it?

And yet I think most of what parents (or stepparents) do for their children is motivated by good intentions.

There are exceptions of course, but basically no parent will get up in the morning saying ‘how am I going to sabotage the life of my child today? “.

The truth is that sometimes:

Good intentions + ignorance = negative effect.

Despite good intentions, baggage and negative beliefs that family members bring with them can be transferred automatically to you.

One day I came across an article about the actor Denzel Washington. He said that the main secret of his success was his confidence in him, and confessed that it was mostly his teachers who helped him in this direction.

He had remembered that one of them had said, “Denzel, with your intelligence, you can achieve anything you want in life.”

Then he said: “I ​​was only 10 years old! But I never forgot what he had said to me that day. You do not know the power that words can have when talking with children or youth. ”

How media can influence self-confidence

Hitler knew it. Churchill also.

Large firms spend millions on them. Very simply, if you want to change, shape and influence people’s minds, the use of media can become your most powerful weapons.

You see, the media do not just convey information. The media shapes our culture. They reinforce our stereotypes. They subtly influence our opinions on what is acceptable and what is not.

The media can awaken the conscience of a nation. They can also distort the truth and let people believe what is wrong at the same time.

The media can influence the beliefs you have about yourself. And these beliefs are not that they are.

“I have to be thin,” “I have to be famous,” “I have to have the latest fashionable shoes”, etc.

So far we have seen the factors that could erode or break your confidence. Your parents, your teachers, the media can play a role.

Now, you guessed it, the last factor is – yourself. I often wonder, “Who is the most important person you would talk to? “.

The answer?

Yourself.

The conversations you have with yourself, your interpersonal communication, can have a significant impact on how you feel. This can reinforce your negative beliefs, or help to replace them with more motivating and more positive beliefs.

Now I turn to you: among these four factors, which is the most virulent in your life that affects your belief system the most?